Turn on any TV and you are blasted with advertisements offering you bottomless bliss in easy payment installments. Sadly, however, many young adults are experts at giving blow jobs or getting their partner to reach orgasm in five minutes or less, but lousy at keeping their relationships viable. Sex education teaches sexually maturing adolescents to focus on the gritty stuff surrounding relationships: unwanted pregnancies, teenage parenting, STDs, and, of course, reaching orgasm.Our government promises happiness through legal decrees. Dating services have the formula for “happily ever after.” Even jobs offer happy hours. For many people it is an elusive experience, slippery at best. And typically, where there is politics there is corruption. Having sex early on in the dating ritual may have something to do with why Prince Charmings turn into cold-blooded toads and beautiful princesses transform into evil witches. But relationships are so much more than unwanted fetuses and bacterial infections.
To understand the inner workings of happiness, simply do away with the notion that happiness is synonymous with human achievements, reassign it to the realm of politics . We have become a sex-worshipping culture, so much so that infidelity is listed as the number one cause of divorce.
American people would rather break their families apart than deal with a cheating spouse.
Research shows that sex, on a good night, lasts about 10 minutes (my apologies to all the record breakers out there).
If a couple has sex every day, that is a total of 60.83 hours a year devoted to reaching orgasm.
That leaves 84 percent of the relationship unaccounted for.
Who is teaching sexually maturing adults what to do the other 84 percent of the time they are with their sweethearts?Who is teaching young people what relationships are really supposed to do for them?If you get into relationships just for the fun of it, then immediately stop reading this article and proceed to the nearest sex shop.But if you are of the group that wants something more from your relationship, it is time to reevaluate your attitude toward dating and sex.A naturopathic physician by day, a writer by night, when Dr.Lemmons’ fingers are not glued to her faithful IBM, she is mixing home potions to cure her neighbors’ aches and pains.