Her sense of what she’s able to accomplish flounders.
Particularly girls between the ages of 10 and 17 have a strong need for male attention, affirmation, affection and touch.
If dad backs out, she’ll get what she needs from male friendships or from romantic sexual relationships. 1 influence on a girl's self-esteem is affection from her dad.
OSV: Being a good father also has a lot to do with being a good husband, doesn’t it? If she sees her father open doors for her mother, help clean up in the kitchen and is patient, she will take what she sees into her own marriage and, whether she likes it or not, consciously or unconsciously, reproduce that.
Daughters learn how they should be treated by watching how their dad treats their mom.
OSV: Why should fathers not underestimate the importance of setting rules and expectations for their girls?
Fact: Babies as young as six months whose fathers are present and active in the home score higher on mental development tests than babies whose fathers are not present and active. Meg Meeker, a pediatrician, uses these facts and more to make the case that few things matter more to a girl’s mental, physical and social development than her relationship with her father.
Fact: Teenage girls who are close to their fathers are far less likely to become sexually active. Drawing on her 20-plus years of counseling teenage girls, she outlines what a father can do to strengthen or heal his relationship with his daughter and help her become a mature, healthy woman.
Fact: Teenage girls are twice as likely to stay in school if their fathers are involved in their lives. This interview by Emily Stimpson is reprinted with permission from the June 15, 2008 issue of Our Sunday Visitor. Fathers have a tremendous power over their daughters. His interactions with her set her up for how she’s going to relate to all other men and to God. If she learns to like her dad, and she can trust him, she’ll have a much easier time trusting her husband and trusting God.OSV: Whether fathers like it or not, what do their daughters expect from them? Meg Meeker: A daughter naturally wants to view her dad as a leader. That's not just the way it’s supposed to be; that’s the way it is. OSV: What do you think is the most common, albeit perhaps well-intentioned, mistake that most fathers make?Meeker: Fathers dramatically underestimate the importance of themselves in their daughters’ lives.They withdraw much too quickly, doubt their significance and influence, and grossly misunderstand how very much their daughters need and want to have a good relationship with them.OSV: What can the consequences of that withdrawal be?Meeker: When a dad pulls out of a girl’s life, she flounders. Her ability to have healthy relationships with other men flounders.