2 View All Next »It’s been about six months or so since I addressed that perennial bugbear of nerd dating, the Nice Guy, and after some of the comments I’ve seen, on the blog and elsewhere, it seems like as good a time as any to revisit the topic.
Preferably by insulting her and pretending you don’t give a shit about her. “Society tells men they’re supposed to be powerful, this is how powerful people act. They dedicate shows to horrible people who do nothing but party, act like coked out hamsters, pick fights and fuck.
Women like power and status.” Meanwhile, Nice Guys continue to put the blame on everybody but themselves and the cycle continues. If you were to listen in on men’s conversations when the subject of dating issues, you would think that assholes – and their close cousin, the Alpha Male – has some sort of mystical, mesmeric power over women; the hint of douchebaggery and Ed Hardy clothing acting as the alchemical formula to getting more ass than a man in a car chase that plows through an ass cart and crashes through a plate ass window. Now maybe women don’t necessarily want passive Nice Guys with their senses of entitlement and passive-aggressiveness, but that doesn’t mean that they want some dickbag who patronizes her, insults her and generally treats her like crap, right? So many, in fact, that they have a Tumblr dedicated to it So… We see people in power acting like assholes, asshole celebrities who seem to be famous strictly for being famous (or for fucking famous people).
And of course, the guy who’s busily banging away at the girl you like – you know, the one who seems to be the source of all of that drama she keeps coming to you with, the one who couldn’t an asshole.
Tally it all up and you could be forgiven for thinking that being an asshole is the common denominator.
In the primate world, the alpha male is the dominant ape in the herd who stands at the top of the informal hierarchy by dint of his strength, health and overal fitness.
These are all favorable factions that influence his potential survivability, which in turn mean that his children are more likely to survive to pass on their genes.Because of the way ape sociology works, the alpha male has the most access to food and the females.The apes below him in the hierarchy, the Betas, have a greatly reduced access to sex, food and basic dignity.The Alpha keeps his position via intimidation and furious violence.Betas who piss off the Alpha do so at their own risk.I’m sure you can imagine how people might see this reflected in humans. So, if Nice Guys are Betas and assholes are Alphas, then it makes sense to try to emulate that behavior, right?