Where can a powerful woman find a prospective mate?Work and the gym are often out—and, increasingly, top-tier matchmakers are in.
There are blogs, endless newspaper columns, and television shows devoted to the hapless single lady looking for love.
But the ladies in the top financial tiers have an even bigger problem.
Not only can they not pick up guys in bars for fear of appearing on Page Six, they can’t shop online without knowing that somehow their profile will mysteriously appear on sites like Gawker, which will mock them mercilessly.
Or even worse—as in the case of Paula Zahn’s millionaire husband, Richard Cohen, who was caught using to date and dump women after telling them they were his “soul mate”—their dating peccadilloes and seemingly bad behavior also might be chronicled by the city’s tabloids.
And if the women go out too much, it could hurt their reputation, says Amy Andersen of Linx Dating.
“A really powerful, high-caliber woman, when it comes to her personal life, she should make it as private as possible,” she says.
“A lot of these types are going to charity events to try and meet men.
They shouldn’t hyperexpose themselves and become a depreciating asset, so when they are introduced to the right guy, he hasn’t read about her everywhere.” Some, like Katie Couric, have magical friends who just happen to know nice, wealthy, single financiers, and get set up that way.
But more often than not, those men, the elusive unicorns of the dating scene, are dating younger, not-so-powerful women. Bar Refaeli recently complained to Conan O’Brien, “Let’s put it out there.
No one hits on me.” Increasingly, high-powered women are turning to matchmakers—some of whom charge up to 0,000 a year—to help them find love (Note: we have no idea if any of the single ladies mentioned above have ever worked with a matchmaker.) And we’re not talking someone like Bravo’s cantankerous Millionaire Matchmaker star Patti Stanger, who holds cattle calls with random people to set her wealthy clients up with.
The new breed of high-end matchmakers is highly selective, running background checks not just on clients but potential dates, and they say they accept, at the most, 25 percent of potential clients, the majority of whom are women. Granted, we can’t guarantee if the guys are as good as they sound, but if these men are going to submit to a background check and a litany of questions, they must be at least interested and sincere about getting into a relationship.”Griffith adds that wealthier, high-profile clients have a harder time meeting prospective mates, as “there are challenges.