Is the person you’ve fallen for and shared your deepest secrets with really who they say they are? Phil’s guests say they fell victim to a catfish — a person who creates a false ID on the Internet in the hopes of luring people into romantic relationships. And what would drive a person to carry out such a deception?
Devon, Lauren, Bobbi and Kelly say they fell for the same man and spent months establishing an online relationship — one that never culminated in a face-to-face meeting. The women say Shaun had plenty of dramatic excuses for why he couldn’t meet them: car accidents, surgery, migraines, a brain tumor, chemotherapy, his mother’s breast cancer diagnosis and double mastectomy and emergency room visits. , he talks about the people you need to be aware of, called BAITERs — people who are backstabbers, abusers, imposters, takers, exploiters and reckless.
And, learn the “Sweet 16” — what successful people consistently do to win in the real world. He also recommends that they do a relationship autopsy to recognize the mistakes they may have made in falling for an imposter, so they can learn from them and move forward.
Pete Inda, an investigator on an alleged sexual assault involving an online dating customer, says there's no way to know who you're dealing with on the Web.
“It could be a 15-year-old kid; it could be a cop posing as a 15-year-old kid. (Chuck Berman, Chicago Tribune)Derrick Chaney may have come across as a catch on the dating website he used — successful, connected and smooth-talking.
But when the 31-year-old Iowa woman Chaney courted online traveled to Illinois for their first date, he quickly turned from eligible bachelor to sexual predator, police said.
After weeks of Internet chats and phone conversations, the two met in January at an Aurora motel, where Chaney sexually assaulted the woman and held her prisoner, according to authorities.
Chaney, 37, of Aurora, was charged with sexual assault, unlawful restraint and kidnapping in a case that police and prosecutors say underscores the potential dangers of online encounters.As the number of people looking for love on the Internet continues to balloon, so do concerns about such risks.According to law enforcement officials, there's no way to know what percentage of sexual assaults is linked to online dating.But in providing access to millions of people, these Internet services offer a widening universe in which those intent on violence can prowl, experts say.Had Chaney's alleged victim — or the online dating company that made their connection possible — obtained a criminal background check, it would have shown that he has a history of domestic violence and multiple felony convictions, records show.With a few exceptions, online dating companies do not conduct background checks on users or verify their identities.