While our male counterparts can confuse the heck out of us Dignity Daters, sometimes they can be the best when it comes to dishing out dating advice.
Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of “interdependence.” Interdependence requires that you’re both independent and dependent; that means you create sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends.
Don’t lose the things that are most important to you, and keep doing what you were doing before you started dating him: your Sunday morning yoga class, a yearly vacation with your college roommates, etc.
While you might think it cute to have three glasses of wine at dinner, he does not. If you need to loosen up before a date, watch a comedy right before you leave or take a walk. One guy told us that he went on a first date and his date wouldn’t order any food because she wasn’t “hungry.” But then every time he cut a piece of steak on his plate, she reached over and ate it!
Best to leave your glass half full and your plate empty(ish).
(so they might need a little more time than you to decide if you’re the one).
Even if a guy is relationship ready, if you bring up on date three that you’re ready for a relationship he’ll likely question whether you really want to be in a relationship with HIM or if you’re ready for a relationship with anyone.He’s going to wonder how after two dinners and one museum trip you already know that you want him to be your boyfriend.So even though it’s great to let a new guy know where you are in your life or about your dating goals, take the time to get to know him before you decide.(We recommend that you hold that conversation until at least date three or four).As a result, he’ll feel a whole lot better about the possibility of having a relationship if you give him a little time. Not only is this phase of dating exciting, but it also allows you time to “data date” and collect the information you need to determine if he’s boyfriend material AND someone you want to be in a relationship with.If you want to show a man that you’re girlfriend material, don’t hook up with him on the first date.