Control A psychopath will go to great lengths to find out your account details.
The most important self-defense against psychopathic seducers consists of recognizing the initial warning signals so that you can escape the relationship early on, hopefully before you’re seriously harmed. Joseph Carver has put together a helpful and instructive list outlining the early symptoms of a dangerous relationship with a psychopath, or as he puts it quite aptly, with “a Loser.” As we’ve already seen in the previous account of Drew Peterson’s behavior, not all the signs of psychopathic seduction are obviously negative.
The presence of even three of these symptoms indicates a potentially harmful relationship.
Anything above this number points to not just probable, but certain harm.
Carver begins by defining “the Loser”: “‘The Loser’ is a type of partner that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship…
How many of you ladies actually trust your instincts when it comes to dating? He’ll flatter you with comments, act concerned and even play the ‘just to check’ card.
There are always subtle signs when someone's not quite right for you, but it’s up to you to act. Psychopaths will shower you with sweet texts and late-night phone calls, then all of the sudden he'll give you the cold-shoulder. They know how to get it out of you and they will do everything in their power to get the information they need. The ex factor Psychopaths also tend to compare you to their past partners, not necessarily because they’re still stuck on them, but because they get a kick out of seeing you get all insecure.
Psychopaths work in manipulating ways; pathologically lying, contradicting themselves, controlling your emotions and sometimes even getting physical. Don’t fall for digital entanglements because you think you'll ‘feel closer’ to him. There’s something intriguing for a psychopath when he knows he has the power to devalue you, criticize you and make you vulnerable ALL while unconsciously fostering feuds. The L word If the man you're dating drops the L-bomb on you on your third date congratulations, you’ve just joined the psycho circus.
But there are "psychos" that have their craft perfected too.His love-bombing techniques might overwhelm your inner gut feeling leaving you oblivious to the signs and obvious truth. Ladies, we’d all love a man to fall in love with us that quickly, but it just doesn’t happen the same way it does on the big screen. Crazy cat There’s a reason why dogs are a ‘man’s best friend’ and if he hasn’t clued in yet then maybe he’s not really a man at all.
The boyfriend that seems “too good to be true” showering you with gifts and compliments could also fit the bill as complete and utter no-no. Paranoia He’s constantly eye-balling you from head to toe trying to suss out any unusual moves you make so he can accuse you of cheating. No normal human being falls in love that quickly - and tells you - no one. Narcissus The self-absorption of a narcissistic psychopath will put you at the back-end of his priority list. Only women are allowed to get away with owning armies of cats (and we’re still called crazy for it).
Don’t get sucked into the life of a psychopath - whether he's in need of some very real mental health assistance or is simply a proverbial "psycho" it’s time to slow things down and re-evaluate your Prince Charming. Any self-righteous gal will know that this sign is bad news. Besides who wants a man that doesn't know what he wants? He obsessively scours your Facebook as much as his own or worse, he requests to share a couple’s profile with you to avoid you talking to any other guys (his first step to take over your life). To him, he’s smarter, better-looking, funnier and more interesting than you. A classic post abuse move - he calls you crying his eyes out with guilt. If your man owns more than a few hairballs he's cuckoo, bottom line.
Here are the top 10 signs every woman should heed when dating... Lies If he doesn’t seem to have time of day ever, he probably does, just not with you. He’ll tell you that he stayed home all night in front of the TV and had an early night when he’s really at a party getting sh*t faced (and who knows what else). One day he’ll say he’s seeking ‘the one’, the next day, he’ll say he wants ‘nothing serious’. If the things your man says remind you of Kanye West in any way then you know, you’re in for a real treat. Anger Management If he’s ever thrown an angry balled fist or even nudged you then it’s clear that your sweetheart needs to get some professional help. Anything from screaming, yelling, sizing you up and swinging his fists at you is a clear sign of I-need-help.
If he can’t tell the truth about where he is then he's definitely not worth your while.